Falling in love can be the best thing in the world. But what if you realize that your partner is not willing to commit to you? Suddenly, your world turns upside down and the relationship becomes a nightmare. Well, you can save yourself from this predicament by finding out if the potential partner is commitment phobic before getting into a relationship. Commitment phobia is an easily identifiable trait, provided that you know the signs and symptoms to watch out for. Here are some indications that the man you are considering as a partner will never commit to you.
- He has never been in a long-term relationship before
Start by learning more about the man’s past, whether he has been in a long-term or committed relationship before. If you are not comfortable about asking him upfront, play a detective and try to find out from external sources. Check out his social profiles or ask mutual friends. Someone who has never taken commitments seriously will have only short-term flings and non-committed relationships in his love history.
- He is not willing to plan dates in advance
If a man is not keen on planning date nights or weekends in advance, take it as a red flag. Someone who fears to commit to plans will obviously not be good at planning a life together. If you are seriously considering to bond with such a person, just back off as this is a clear signal that there is no future together.
- His words are often shallow
Someone who fears to make a commitment in relationships will not have depth in his expression of feelings. Such men are often uncomfortable while even saying something as simple as “I love you”. Their conversations will usually be laced with uncertainty, as words like maybe, probably and might not be used frequently.
- He wants to get physical too quickly
Relationship coach Giordana Toccaceli warns about men who are too quick to want sexual intimacy in a relationship. Chances are that you would be trapped with a commitment-phobic because such men want to get physical and then move on, without taking the relationship further. Steer clear of a man who wants you too soon because he may not really be into it at all.
- He does not have many friends
A man who is a commitment phobic in relationships is seldom dependable in friendship too. So if you find that your potential partner does not really have a healthy friend circle, he is probably not worth investing your efforts in. Ask him about his friends to check out whether he has some good ones and is ready to introduce you to them.
- He is often unpredictable
Unpredictability is another personality trait that you should watch out for because it is definitely a wrong signal if you are considering a serious, long-term relationship. Men who are not consistent are usually scared of making a commitment to one person and would rather hop from one to the next.
Be vigilant about these personality traits in a potential partner because such men end up hurting women, knowingly or unknowingly. It is better to wait for someone who is ready to put as much effort into a relationship as you are doing!